The True Meaning Of Kindness
How To Be Happy Through Small Acts Of Kindness
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A dictionary meaning of kindness
- The quality of being warm-hearted and considerate and humane and sympathetic
- Tendency to be kind and forgiving
- A kind act
In a study of 37 cultures around the world, 16000 subjects were asked about their most desired traits in a mate. For both sexes, the first preference was kindness.
Kindness is the act or the state of being kind and marked by charitable behaviour, marked by mild disposition, pleasantness, tenderness and concern for others. It is a recognized value in many cultures and religions.
The real meaning of kindness: to expand happiness
Knowing the meaning of kindness is good. Better still is experiencing how to be happy by sowing seeds of kindness through doing small acts of kindness daily. Kindness then soon blossoms into love.
Love thy neighbour as yourself
I used to have some quite animated debates with a friend who assured me that all would be well if one would just love. That was the solution. And, indeed, Jesus said that too.
- yeah, that's all very well … but how?
However, I had a 'problem' with that glib statement of my friend's. Everyone wants to be happy, because that is our natural urge - to expand our happiness. So why isn't everyone happy? Likewise, there is a common understanding that love is supreme. Then why do so many people have difficulty loving?
How can you love your neighbour when in reality you think s/he's just not the kind of person you could love, let alone like? In fact, s/he may irritate you no end. Many would feel that this directive is all very well and nice, but in reality for many it's just not that easy.
Beware of practising pseudo-love
My personal view is that many of the world's greatest spiritual teaches of the past and of the present teach about qualities which a spiritual or enlightened person displays - such as love, patience, serenity, peace, and so one. Their followers then take that to mean that they should aspire to have those qualities too. So far, so good.
The trouble is that they also assume that they must try to display those qualities, even though they don't really experience them. So they make a mood of it all; they pretend. That is a kind of false spirituality.
The good qualities we are supposed to have are the results of being spiritually mature, or enlightened. They are not the means to such a state. Not realising this distinction has probably caused many a seeker to feel disheartened and unworthy after years of trying to be a better person.
Does a fancy office make you a CEO?
That reminds me of a something my son once said in describing the situation where a person does not have the qualities, knowledge or experience to be a CEO in an organization. In fact, he is not a CEO.
Such a person might observe that a CEO has a carpeted office with a large desk, a laptop computer, a pot plant here and there, a multi-function telephone, and a personal assistant just outside his office.
So he starts his own new business venture and acquires all those things (possibly with a bank loan) and then sees himself as the CEO he has aspired to be. But, in truth, he is a wannabe CEO, not the real thing. He hasn't a clue how to run his business effectively.
This analogy applies to desirable human qualities too, such as a loving nature, patience, compassion and more.
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