Inability to Sit Still During Conscious Mental Rest
We are practicing Conscious Mental Rest as a family. My son is having a hard time sitting still. He will shift in his seat, scratch, move his arms or his head etc. Should he try to be still? Should he do what makes him feel comfortable? He is 10 years old. His sister who is 11 has no trouble sitting still.
It's great to hear that you have your CMR sessions as a family. I'd be interested to hear whether you have your sessions together in one room at the same time, or individually when it suits each family member.
If you have your Conscious Mental Rest sessions as a family, together in the same room, then there are two aspects to consider: what is best for your son, and what is best for the rest of the family. I'll deal with your son's situation first.
Per the course instructions, if he feels itchy and needs to scratch his skin to relieve the itch, then he should do it. A bodily sensation such as itchiness needs to be attended to, or it will be too distracting to allow the mind to rest.
Likewise, if his other body movements are in order to become physically more comfortable, then those movements are also fine. He should sit comfortably for his CMR sessions.
If these movements, and the scratching, are mostly only during CMR and not during other times, then it might be that when he sits down for CMR, that mental resting is possibly triggering some normalization in the body, which is then felt as itchiness or other kinds of physical discomfort needing some physical movement to relieve it.
In all of this, my recommendation would be to follow the course guidelines closely and allow what happens to happen, without judging it or getting frustrated with it, and so on. Just follow the guidelines and come back to the comfort zone whenever it feels necessary, and let go again.
With regard to the family's
needs, if you're all having your CMR sessions together, and you're finding that your son's movements are distracting you, then no-one is really having an ideal session. If your son is aware that he is disturbing the rest of you, he might feel 'bad' about that and do things to try not to disturb you all. And that brings some conscious effort into his practice, which is not conducive to an effective session of CMR.
Likewise, if the family is getting disturbed, and possibly frustrated and judgemental, then they too are not having an undisturbed session of CMR. If this is indeed the situation, then it might be best for everyone if you all did your CMR in your own rooms for a while, if that is feasible and seems necessary.