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Inability to Sit Still During Conscious Mental Rest

by Larry
(New York)

We are practicing Conscious Mental Rest as a family. My son is having a hard time sitting still. He will shift in his seat, scratch, move his arms or his head etc. Should he try to be still? Should he do what makes him feel comfortable? He is 10 years old. His sister who is 11 has no trouble sitting still.

Gavin's response:

It's great to hear that you have your CMR sessions as a family. I'd be interested to hear whether you have your sessions together in one room at the same time, or individually when it suits each family member.

If you have your Conscious Mental Rest sessions as a family, together in the same room, then there are two aspects to consider: what is best for your son, and what is best for the rest of the family. I'll deal with your son's situation first.

Per the course instructions, if he feels itchy and needs to scratch his skin to relieve the itch, then he should do it. A bodily sensation such as itchiness needs to be attended to, or it will be too distracting to allow the mind to rest.

Likewise, if his other body movements are in order to become physically more comfortable, then those movements are also fine. He should sit comfortably for his CMR sessions.

If these movements, and the scratching, are mostly only during CMR and not during other times, then it might be that when he sits down for CMR, that mental resting is possibly triggering some normalization in the body, which is then felt as itchiness or other kinds of physical discomfort needing some physical movement to relieve it.

In all of this, my recommendation would be to follow the course guidelines closely and allow what happens to happen, without judging it or getting frustrated with it, and so on. Just follow the guidelines and come back to the comfort zone whenever it feels necessary, and let go again.

With regard to the family's needs, if you're all having your CMR sessions together, and you're finding that your son's movements are distracting you, then no-one is really having an ideal session. If your son is aware that he is disturbing the rest of you, he might feel 'bad' about that and do things to try not to disturb you all. And that brings some conscious effort into his practice, which is not conducive to an effective session of CMR.

Likewise, if the family is getting disturbed, and possibly frustrated and judgemental, then they too are not having an undisturbed session of CMR. If this is indeed the situation, then it might be best for everyone if you all did your CMR in your own rooms for a while, if that is feasible and seems necessary.

~ Gavin

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sleeping or transcending
by: andy

Hi Gavin,
Enjoying the course very much thank you.
When I find time has disappeared so to speak which happens a lot, I'm not sure if I've been asleep or transcended, one can only know when coming out of either sleep or transcending afterwards otherwise awareness of it would be a thought which means it's ended but I still can't seem to know which it is?
Any clues would be helpful although I realise that whatever it is is as it is, I'm just curious.

Re: Sleeping or Transcending
by: Gavin, Unlock-Your-Happiness.com

Andy, I have just seen your comment today, so I'm not sure how long it has been here. If it has been a while, please accept my apologies. I don't seem to have a received a system notification about it.

I don't use the term 'transcending' in connection with CMR because it might be confusing to practitioners, but I know what you mean. Typically, transcending means going beyond -- going beyond thoughts and thinking.

When the mind is effortlessly allowed to rest during Conscious Mental Rest, it settles down more and more and can reach a point where there is only awareness, but nothing one is being aware of. We remain conscious, awake, but there is mental stillness in that awakeness.

At that level, as you say, we are not actually aware that we are at that quiet level. We just are. Then, when the mind stirs again, we become aware of our situation, and if we look at a clock or watch, we realise that time seemed to just slip by without our realising it. That is excellent, and an indication that our mind has indeed had a very good level of conscious mental rest.

Now, if we had been sleeping during that time, we would possibly feel a little drowsy when we regain our awakeness. Also, we might not be so surprised that time went by like that, because we would possibly feel that the time had been spent unconscious, as in dreamless sleep, so it would feel quite natural that time would have passed while we slept.

Andy, as you have probably experienced yourself, this process is very subtle, as is the experience of deep conscious mental rest. So it is not something that one can clearly pin-point with the limitations of language. Sometimes it could even be that one is drifting between wakeful stillness and sleepful stillness during that period of lost time. I feel sure that you will know the difference between the two states, unless the lines are blurred by a swinging between the two.

I think the clearest indication of deep conscious mental rest is that there may be more surprise when you notice how some time has just slipped by unaccounted for and unnoticed. And you should feel some more mental clarity once you have got back into activity.

I hope this helps.

~ Gavin

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