CMR -Thoughts And Letting Go At The Comfort Zone
by Julie, Therapist
When I go to the comfort zone and let go and the second type of thought comes up, you say to "do nothing". Does that mean that I do keep awareness of the thought and favour the comfort zone, because to "do nothing" leaves me not really knowing what to do and needing some advice.
Julie, my responses are below in blue font. - Gavin Hoole
I'm not sure what you mean by the 'second type of thought', but I'll try to clarify. There are basically two kinds of thoughts (to keep it simple).
(1) There is usually some mental activity going on ... like background noise. We ignore that; don't bother about it. Sometimes (perhaps often) that mental activity has enough form to be able to be considered to be a 'thought'. It has some meaning. Again, we just ignore those thoughts; don't give them any attention; don't 'entertain' them. If we notice such thoughts, regard the noticing as a signal to come back to the comfort zone and let go again. You're not actually engaged in the thought at this stage; you're just aware that it is there. When you notice such thoughts, then easily come back to the comfort zone.
(2) Sometimes before you notice such thoughts and come back to the comfort zone, without realising it the thought has drawn you (your mind) into the thought's content, and away you go into being 'engaged in the thinking'. Your mind is no longer resting. It is being used by you to think stuff, perhaps with some feelings attached.
You're so engrossed in the thinking that you don't even realise it. Then, when whatever it was that triggered that thought situation has lessened enough, you will become aware that you were not resting the mind but were actually involved in the thinking. When you have that recognition, again you come back to the comfort zone and let go.
So it becomes a cycle, really, letting go at the comfort zone and then coming back to it each time you become aware of no longer resting the mind.
Your word 'favouring' the comfort zone is a good way of putting it. (They use that in TM. They say when you have thoughts along with the mantra, then favour the mantra.)
It is as if we are effortlessly ignoring thoughts. We don't bother about the mental activity, or the thoughts that come and go. We don't enliven them either by giving any attention to them. If we find that we are giving them attention, and realise it, then we favour the comfort zone. If we become engaged in the thinking, then when we realise that, we come back to the comfort zone again and let go.
Letting go is a way of saying: don't try to keep your attention there. Just bring it there and then rest. Effortless is the name of the game -- no focusing on the comfort zone, or concentrating or holding our attention there.
I am enjoying CMR but realise I am getting stuck at this point. I am OK with deciding to take my awareness back to the comfort zone when I realise I have been caught up in thinking, but get a bit lost then with the instruction to let go. This may seem to be an unnecessarily complicated question, but I feel it is holding me back.
This uncertainty is normal. It is good to have the procedure clarified. So thanks for asking.